Sidney Poitier & Joanna Shimkus Were ‘Destined’ to Be Together – Inside Their 45-Year Interracial Marriage with 2 Pretty Daughters

Joanna Shimkus and Sidney Poitier | Source: Getty Images
Joanna Shimkus and Sidney Poitier | Source: Getty Images

Sidney Poitier & Joanna Shimkus Were ‘Destined’ to Be Together – Inside Their 45-Year Interracial Marriage with 2 Pretty Daughters

The iconic actor experienced two marriages and fathered six daughters with two women. His first union spanned more than ten years, while his second endured until his passing.

Sidney Poitier’s second wife, Joanna Shimkus, once said they were “destined” to be together. Their remarkable 45-year interracial marriage, filled with love and mutual respect, brought them two beautiful daughters, offering a glimpse into a bond that stood the test of time.

Their love story was one of lasting commitment, but before his enduring marriage to Shimkus, Sidney had experienced another chapter in his life. His first marriage, along with a nearly decade-long romance outside of it, unfolded alongside his groundbreaking contributions to Hollywood.

The public figure, known for guarding his private life, offered rare insight into his first marriage to Juanita Hardy in “Sidney Poitier: Man, Actor, Icon.” He met her during a time of emotional emptiness when he sought fulfillment through partying, dating, and material indulgence.

Sidney Poitier and Juanita Hardy pictured with Willy Brandt in 1960, in Berlin, Germany. | Source: Getty Images

Sidney Poitier and Juanita Hardy pictured with Willy Brandt in 1960, in Berlin, Germany. | Source: Getty Images

Though Sidney initially doubted she could offer him stability, she became the first woman to do so. Hardy had a career in entertainment — modeling for Sepia and Ebony magazines, dancing, and studying at Columbia University.

The pair first crossed paths in the early 1950s and Sidney saw her again later at a nightclub, where he boldly stated, “I’ll never marry a girl like you!” Perplexed by his words, Hardy later learned he assumed she was “unstable” because of her beauty and ever-changing companions.

Within a week, he asked her on a date; a month later, he was calling her his “future wife.” The couple eventually tied the knot in 1950. “I had faith in myself and faith in the future — enough of each to marry a beautiful young girl,” Sidney once reflected in an interview.

Two years later, in 1952, their first daughter Beverly Poitier, was born while Sidney was still juggling acting with shifts at a barbecue restaurant. “Times were so tough that I used to take milk from the restaurant home for my kid,” he admitted.

Despite the financial struggles of his early career, Sidney and Hardy continued growing their family. Their daughter Pamela Poitier arrived in 1954, followed by Sherri Poitier in 1956. Years later, they welcomed their youngest, Gina Poitier, who tragically passed away several years later.

(L-R) Beverly, Anika, Sydney, Gina, Sherri, and Pamela Poitier attend The Film Society of Lincoln Center's presentation of the 38th Annual Chaplin Award on May 2, 2011, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images

(L-R) Beverly, Anika, Sydney, Gina, Sherri, and Pamela Poitier attend The Film Society of Lincoln Center’s presentation of the 38th Annual Chaplin Award on May 2, 2011, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images

As Sidney’s family life evolved, so did his career, reaching new heights in 1959. That year, he earned his first Best Actor Oscar nomination for “The Defiant Ones.” His success continued on stage as he starred in the Broadway production of “A Raisin in the Sun,” a role that cemented his place as a powerful force in theater.

Around the same time the veteran star joined an all-star cast in the film adaptation of the Gershwin musical “Porgy and Bess.” His momentum in Hollywood only grew, paving the way for a historic milestone.

Sidney Poitier on the set of "Pory and Bess," 1959 | Source: Getty Images

Sidney Poitier on the set of “Pory and Bess,” 1959 | Source: Getty Images

Years later, in 1964, Sidney became the first Black man to win the Best Actor Academy Award for his role in “Lilies of the Field,” portraying Homer Smith, a traveling handyman who helps a group of nuns build a chapel in the desert.

Sidney Poitier pictured holding the Oscar for his role in "Lilies of the Field," on January 1, 1964 | Source: Getty Images

Sidney Poitier pictured holding the Oscar for his role in “Lilies of the Field,” on January 1, 1964 | Source: Getty Images

His historic Oscar win solidified his place in Hollywood, but the demands of fame came at a cost to his personal life. “Fame thrust all these opportunities upon him,” said Aram Goudsouzian, author of “Sidney Poitier: Man, Actor, Icon.” “Sexual temptations were a factor in Sidney and Juanita drifting apart.”

Their separation was a difficult chapter. “That breakup was a long, painful, scarring period for all concerned,” Sidney once admitted. “Juanita had no interest in dismantling the family. She knew there was great dissatisfaction on my part, but she was a good Catholic girl.”

Beyond their struggles, there was another truth he could not ignore, “I was in love with another woman” — Diahann Carroll. Sidney and Carroll met while filming “Porgy and Bess,” drawn to each other despite being married to other people. They agreed to leave their spouses, but he hesitated, and their complicated romance lasted nearly a decade.

Diahann Carroll and Sidney Poitier attend the 36th Academy Awards on April 13, 1964, in Santa Monica, California. | Source: Getty Images

Diahann Carroll and Sidney Poitier attend the 36th Academy Awards on April 13, 1964, in Santa Monica, California. | Source: Getty Images

Although he and Carroll never wed, his marriage to Hardy ended in 1965. Three years later, he met Canadian actress Joanna Shimkus on the set of “The Lost Man,” and their connection proved lasting.

Sidney Poitier and Joanna Shimkus attend Andrew Young Campaign Fundraiser on June 10, 1970, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images

Sidney Poitier and Joanna Shimkus attend Andrew Young Campaign Fundraiser on June 10, 1970, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images

Their bond quickly deepened, leading to a family of their own. The couple welcomed two daughters, with Anika Poitier arriving in 1972, followed by their youngest, Sidney Poitier, in 1973.

They married in 1976, with Sidney crediting Shimkus for teaching him the importance of expressing love daily. Meanwhile, she described him as the most honest and kind man she had ever known.

Sidney Poitier and Joanna Shimkus at the premiere of "Let's Do It Again," 1975 | Source: Getty Images

Sidney Poitier and Joanna Shimkus at the premiere of “Let’s Do It Again,” 1975 | Source: Getty Images

In the 1998 PBS documentary “Sidney Poitier: One Bright Light,” Shimkus reflected on their marriage and the challenges of an interracial relationship, “I guess we were just destined to be [together].” Her perspective on their relationship was shaped by her upbringing, making their bond feel effortless despite societal expectations.

Joanna Shimkus and Sidney Poitier during 13th Annual Carousel of Hope Ball on October 23, 1998, in Beverly Hills, California. | Source: Getty Images

Joanna Shimkus and Sidney Poitier during 13th Annual Carousel of Hope Ball on October 23, 1998, in Beverly Hills, California. | Source: Getty Images

“I grew up in Canada and I never really had any kind of prejudice — it’s unlike America. I just never had those feelings,” she explained. Their quiet life together may have shielded them from challenges others faced, but for her, race was never a defining factor.

Sidney Poitier and Joanna Shimkus at "An Evening with Larry King and Friends" on January 24, 2003, in Beverly Hills, California. | Source: Getty Images

Sidney Poitier and Joanna Shimkus at “An Evening with Larry King and Friends” on January 24, 2003, in Beverly Hills, California. | Source: Getty Images

“I never really did see him as a Black man. I mean, I know he is Black, but I just saw him as a man, and he was just a wonderful person. An amazing human being,” said Shimkus.

Sidney Poitier and Joanna Shimkus attend the premiere of "Twisted," 2004 | Source: Getty Images

Sidney Poitier and Joanna Shimkus attend the premiere of “Twisted,” 2004 | Source: Getty Images

She admired many qualities in Sidney, but what stood out most was his integrity, honesty, and devotion to his family. For her, he was an exceptional person with a kind heart. She also couldn’t deny his charm, admitting that he was “very, very attractive” in his younger years and still remained so.

Joanna Shimkus and Sidney Poitier pictured at the Vanity Fair Oscar party on February 29, 2004, in Beverly Hills, California. | Source: Getty Images

Joanna Shimkus and Sidney Poitier pictured at the Vanity Fair Oscar party on February 29, 2004, in Beverly Hills, California. | Source: Getty Images

Besides looks, when Sidney was honored with a lifetime achievement award at the BAFTA Awards, health concerns prevented him from traveling to London. Instead, he received the award at his Los Angeles home, where he took a moment to recognize those who had supported him throughout his journey.

Sidney Poitier and Joanna Shimkus attend Oprah Winfrey's Legends Ball on May 14, 2005, in Santa Barbara, California. | Source: Getty Images

Sidney Poitier and Joanna Shimkus attend Oprah Winfrey’s Legends Ball on May 14, 2005, in Santa Barbara, California. | Source: Getty Images

“[…] My wife is with me here. My wife, my children and my friends have been keeping me on my feet. To my family, my life force, I am nothing without you. And all of you, thank you for your warm embrace and this extraordinary moment and memory I shall cherish,” said the legendary actor.

Sidney’s gratitude for his family was a constant theme in his life, especially when reflecting on his achievements. The movie star shared that his wife and children meant the most to him.

As for his wife, when asked about the key to their lasting relationship, she credited their nearly five decades together to simple yet meaningful gestures. Joana revealed that she cooked for him every night and took great care of him — acts of love that strengthened their bond over the years.

Sidney Poitier pictured with Joanna Shimkus and their children on January 1, 1983, in Monte Carlo, Monaco. | Source: Getty Images

Sidney Poitier pictured with Joanna Shimkus and their children on January 1, 1983, in Monte Carlo, Monaco. | Source: Getty Images

Sidney’s devotion to his family was evident in both his marriage and parenting. In an interview with Oprah Winfrey once, he reflected on his approach to fatherhood, acknowledging that his children likely wouldn’t describe him as easygoing.

Shimkus saw him as a perfectionist who valued loyalty and mutual respect in relationships. She believed he could be tough on their children at times, expecting a certain level of discipline.

Meanwhile, Sidney admitted that he set high standards, particularly when it came to values, but took pride in seeing those principles reflected in his six children. To him, those values weren’t restrictive — they were rooted in humanity, and he appreciated the intelligence and character his children displayed.

Sidney Poitier pictured with his family during the 6th Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards on March 12, 2000, in Los Angeles, California. | Source: Getty Images

Sidney Poitier pictured with his family during the 6th Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards on March 12, 2000, in Los Angeles, California. | Source: Getty Images

The Hollywood star’s influence endured far beyond his lifetime. After his passing in January 2022 at 94, Shimkus discovered a drawer filled with his speeches while organizing his office.

Reading through them, she realized they contained his deepest thoughts and observations on life, inspiring her to share them with the world in a book titled “Sidney Poitier: The Great Speeches of an Icon Who Moved Us Forward.”

In an excerpt, Shimkus described Sidney as one of the most intelligent and fascinating people she had ever known. Despite little formal education, he was self-taught, deeply curious, and passionate about the cosmos.

Sidney Poitier and Joanna Shimkus attend the Brigitte and Bobby Sherman Children's Foundation's 6th Annual Christmas Gala and Fundraiser on December 19, 2015, in Beverly Hills, California. | Source: Getty Images

Sidney Poitier and Joanna Shimkus attend the Brigitte and Bobby Sherman Children’s Foundation’s 6th Annual Christmas Gala and Fundraiser on December 19, 2015, in Beverly Hills, California. | Source: Getty Images

His commitment to learning extended to his family, as he established a trust to support his daughters’ education. Sidney Poitier’s calm, deliberate voice was another defining trait.

Though they spent years in the Bahamas, Shimkus never heard his original accent or saw him raise his voice, even with their children. Their relationship was built on mutual respect, and his legacy of wisdom and kindness lives on.

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